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Sexless Marriage - Some of The Causes

By: Ross Zurn

Do you think you're trapped in a sexless marriage? Sexless marriages are a cause of great worry to so many married couples. You might think that your predicament is impossible to deal with and taking the steps to get a divorce lawyer seems the obvious solution but this is not always the case.

Sexless marriages are frequently the cause of much marital distress and solving the problem can be difficult and will need a lot of thought before you even consider getting a divorce lawyer.

Your sexless marriage can:

Cause you to feel extremely lonely.

Damage your confidence and self-esteem.

Cause you to feel confused and lethargic.

Can make you feel stressed out.

You will have to learn the root causes of why your marriage is now sexless when it was once romantic,loving and sexually fulfilling. A marriage without sex is bad but married sex with no emotions is equally as unhappy.

Your sexless marriage may perhaps be the result of a physical difficulty or psychological problem in which circumstances medical advice should be sought.

These are some other likely causes for why a marriage is now sexless.

(1) You are "stuck at home" while your partner works long hours

When one partner works long hours and the other remains at home feeling bored and lonely. If one partner stays at home feeling ignored and lonely while the other is working very long hours then it is not unusual for the one who stays home to take out their frustrations on their partner by avoiding sex as a type of silent protest. This can turn out to be a regular pattern of behaviour, whichcould be hard to change once it has started.

(2) You both work long hours.

If both you and your partner have time-consuming and demanding jobs you will seldom get the chance to spend time with each other and end up like the proverbial ‘ships that pass in the night’. The difficulty then is not one of loneliness and frustration for one of you but simply lack of time together which can make you drift apart sexually and emotionally.

You must make your mind up what is more essential, your work or your marriage and make an effort to find some way of re-scheduling your lives to ensure that you don't drift apart just by not seeing enough of each other.

(3) Further causes why your marriage is now sexless.

You have to consider some other possible reasons for why you no longer feel sexually attracted to your partner such as:

You don't find them attractive and desirable.

They don't show you any feelings.

They lie to you and deceive you.

They are lazy and selfish.

They are disrespectful and abusive toward you.

They treat your point of view with derision.

There can be many other causes why a marriage is sexless but all the above can make you feel that you want to avoid sex with your spouse thereby creating stress within your marriage.

Marriage counseling may eventually be only thing left to help you understand why your marriage is now sexless and help you to restore the closeness you once held so dear.

If you don't do something about your sexless marriage then the problems could lead you into the divorce court.